“You suck at life, and you’re stupid, too…” If you’re in a spiritual community, you wouldn’t expect to hear such ball-shredding criticisms from other students, unless it happens in a darshan hall or some other public or semi-public place to air interpersonal grievances. In private, such comments only serve to widen the gap and make team efforts impossible. Negative, so-called “constructive comments”, when executed between two people in a lonely hallway, classify as “ball-shredders” and should be passed only in a group situation. The kind of people who shred balls to make themselves righteous and cool tend to have enormous problems of their own, and like to find wrongness around them to excuse their own overburden of mental/emotional shit. I tried to find another word to fit there, but nothing came to mind. Anyhow, they’ll probably come up with something like “…But that’s not precisely exactly what I said…there’s a semicolon missing!!!” Tell them if they have anything to say, save it for a group meeting, where there are plenty of witnesses and help to resolve differences or find some way to blend the two opposing forces into a common ground — at least a truce???
See You At The Top!!!
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