After more than a year of wondering from which film the quote came that I used in the Prosperity Ashram Wedding Chapel (Our Lady of Perpetual Motion) I am told that it came from the Princess Bride, 1987 — a few choice scenes, otherwise petty romantic nonsense, the kind Snow Bunnies like.
You probably can’t read the sign from here, so I’ll set the words down here for you, spoken by Peter Cook as the “Impressive Clergyman” at the wedding of Prince Rupert and Goldilocks or whatever. I’ll never forget what’s-her-name.
“Mawwaige. Mawwiage is what bwings us togethew today. Mawwiage, that Bwessed Awwangement, that dweam within a dweam.
“…And Wove. Twue Wove, wiww fowwow you fowevah, so tweasure your Wove.
“…Have you the Wing?”
As I said, there are a few memorable scenes in the film, and this is one of them. You might also get a kick out of the giant carrying the Sicilian loudmouth bad guy, along with his friends, up the side of a high and dangerous cliff, with the villain continually ragging on the giant who’s preventing him from falling 2,000 feet down to the rocks below.
For me, the whole scene is too reminiscent of what humans do every day, to their utter destruction, but what else is new? Humans of Planet Urth, don’t get me started.
Okay, here’s the rundown on kids in emergency divorce situations. If the kids seem to be endangered by the spouse during a divorce, the advice I got from a wonderful and very friendly and safe-to-talk-to advisor at the Domestic Violence Center was to call her at the Domestic Violence Center for advice on how to handle situations, and to get that advice and fill out a questionnaire long before it becomes a dire necessity.
If things get totally out of hand, Nancy said it might be appropriate to call 911 first, then her office, as things proceed. Normally, you’ll need a temporary custody order from a judge, and you’ll have to inform your spouse of the whereabouts of the children at all times, or you can be accused of kidnapping; on the other hand, if you quit the home and run out and leave the kids, you risk an accusation of abandonment, so it’s dicey all the way down.
Of course, you can take stay in a bad marriage for the sake of the kids, but I’d get a professional psychologist’s opinion on the chances of making it any better for the kids.
On the other hand, if you don’t mind a little infidelity every couple of days, and you can overlook a smashing repression of all your creative skills and love of dance, art, theater, hey –you just might manage to keep a bad marriage together until something happens that’s so over-the-top that it can’t be overlooked or tolerated.
It’s when you wait until it actually blows up in your face that things can get really messy. Handling things in advance generally helps to keep things under some control, although divorce is always unpleasant, always messy, always disruptive for the kids and for the family and friends, and you become a threat to your married friends, because now you’re single, and nobody in this culture stays single for long.
Bottom line; if you don’t mind a little abuse now & then, and aren’t particularly concerned about STDs, then maybe keeping the marriage together isn’t so bad…???
Ultimately, it’s you who must decide, and the road is rocky and unknown, the outlook bleak and lonely. Maybe it’s better to stay with the misery you have than the unknown misery that lies out there in the Great Beyond.
I’m sure there’s a book called “Is There Life After Marriage” or “Is There Life After Divorce”, but I wonder if there’s a book anywhere called “Is There Life After Birth”?
Waking Up is Hard To Do, says Neil Sedaka, and he’s so right, but I’m afraid I’ve wandered off-subject again, with my continual redirection to the higher spiritual levels and let the lower level crap go — open the hand and let the jelly-beans fall back into the jar.
See You At The Top!!!
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