Most women tell me that they were seduced by poetry or work ideas, spoken words. Poetry can be used for seduction or as a transportative device into the higher dimensions. It all depends on what you really want from it. In most cases, the seducer was someone they wouldn’t ordinarily even want to meet in a crowded elevator. There are millions of casual sexual predators out there, and flirtation is not yet outlawed, though it soon will be.
In a single second of browsing the Second Life marketplace, one can see that the whole system is set up around seduction. You can rent a space for an hour, a night, a day, a week or by the month. Houses in Second Life tend to be love-nests. Skyboxes with cuddles and lovemaking abound. You can find thousands of poses and animations for online sex, and there are many more thousands of sex beds and toilets and tables and pool tables and bar counters and more.
Never mind the “why” — sex sells, period.
The thing is, right in the middle of all this squalid and sordid sex scene, there’s a placid healing Ashram, waiting for those with discernment and a little Essential Maturity. Just because there’s sexual seductions by the millions going on all around us doesn’t mean we have to take part in that restless, ever-hopeful cattle-churning, the magic of changing partners.
Basically, there is nothing in the Ashram that could possibly be of any interest to the sex crazed seducer. One can arrange flirtations anywhere, so it’s unlikely that we’ll see any of that around the Ashram — there were a few of those ever-popular “sparking” spots lurking here and there, but they’re mostly gone now.
Higher Beings don’t date.
If you’re sorely in need of a life-partner, try the phone book. Set the search on “random”. Any relationship you set up in the ordinary way is doomed to a life of about three years, maximum. A work-relationship can last over an infinite number of lifetimes, but most so-called “work-relationships” end up as a sullen armistice in its last days.
If your relationship is a “work-relationship”, it should stand any test of time or temptation. If your work is solid, you won’t be tempted at all by a sex scene, meaning a short-term affair, whether online or physical.
Cloistered folks are simply not interested in the Dating Game, and cannot be draw into it. The reason they can say “no” to flirtation games is that they have found a better answer and are applying it. They don’t need the flirtation games, and aren’t trolling the field for new partners, so they have a lot more attention power available to them, and a lot less demand on their time to fulfill partner requirements.
They also don’t need to maintain the huge fictional bank of partner responses and ritual partner dramatics and theatrical faces for their partner. All the dramatic activity and face mask tones needed for a personal relationship are gone. How boring that must be for the human animal.
But the BIG question is, why all that sex? Who would WANT TO deliberately put themselves at deadly risk on the dating cycle, pumping and peddling your tattooed and pimped up flesh, around town, around the block, and around the internet chat rooms, the clubbing marketplace and on the street — raw, exposed, competitive and demanding of any passing Male Attention???
Because sex sells. It always has. Always will.
Sex is the only trade commodity that modern girls have to offer guys. Everything else is total bullpuckey, and every girl worth her weight in marriage licenses can prove it.
In the old days, there was a real market for healthy baby-makers who could also sew, cook, keep house and balance the checkbook, and provide sex when the guy can’t find it elsewhere.
The real trick is finding a guy with the right qualifications already in place; smart girls know that a man cannot be retrained. If you want something different, you have to trade in the old one first.
If you’re a girl who’s ever grimly appraised the field of men available in any location at any one time, you know that there’s not a lot from which to choose, and that sometimes you have to settle for the least hairy monkey.
No problem, most girls can adjust to any male.
And if the time comes when someone else shows interest, a girl can dump her guy in a split second, if there’s a better ride coming down the street.
Men are incredibly dumb, at least on the subject of girl-shit, and maybe it’s better that way. Most guys, if they knew how they were traded around by gals, would think seriously about staying inside the barrel for the rest of their lives.
Of course, there’s also the age-old scam of pimps picking up and courting young girls, then selling them on the flesh market for a few thousand bucks, sometimes only a few hundred. The girls never know what hit them, because they’re junked up as soon as they land in the whorehouse.
It all comes out even, in the end.
Most every woman I have worked with in my groups and workshops, amounting to well over 100,000, have had at least one ugly or very ugly unwanted and unprompted sexual event early on in their lives, and many of them have had to develop relationships by ignoring or blocking the memory of that event, but it colors their lives and relationships throughout. It never quite goes away, without special help; I can offer that help in didge healing, but psychological counseling also helps somewhat, although the scars remain.
Some women get their revenge by getting an “I’m F*cking LIBERATED!!!” tattoo, tarting up and getting out on the street with your girlfriends, speed-dating, trying to figure out what pleases men, then marrying the first guy who actually commits, and in the end, drinking and having casual, slightly angry and disappointed, affairs.
How does that get you even? The bad times they were thinking of, the guy was in charge, but now, it’s YOUR decision, YOU have the power, and any girl quickly discovers that she can easily turn a guy into supercharged arousal and high interest in her more exciting body parts, and bring him either to exhaustion or impotence.
This is the Big Payoff for having to endure life?
I don’t know the calculation for that, but the answer is always the same. Women who don’t get enough male attention tend to spend their last years being upset, miserable, unfulfilled and getting drunk, stoned and casually screwed. Everything revolves for them around their distant and out-of-touch kids and grandkids.
Many women I knew back in the sixties, when I had my boutique shops, told me that they had no idea how to stop seducing, and it had caused them to end up in dozens of unwanted affairs, just because they didn’t realize that an innocent flirtation is never innocent.
Most women settle for what they can get, and most take the first offer that comes along, thinking there might not be another one, and mostly, with the average level of low self esteem and raw, unbridled sexual flaunting on the street by millions of rank amateurs who think the way to a man’s heart is through his dick, they’re probably right.
Many housewives I know were married to very stingy men; they found a way to make household ends meet by hooking on the side. All the hookers I’ve ever known said that married men were the majority of their clientele.
Scarcity of sex partners is a big fear out there, and it keeps many women in sick hurtful and abusive relationships rather than endure loneliness and family and friend pressure to find a mate before it’s too late, but a quick examination of the average streetcorner or public transportation system shows that there is no lack of excitement for those who want to live dangerously.
In public, a woman can always expect to get goosed now & then, and there’s always the asshole who crowds up against you on a subway, in a bus, on an elevator or at a streetcorner while pressing the “change light” button.
Sounds cynical, eh? That’s where you’d be wrong. It’s not at all cynical — it’s totally about socio-anthropology. Study chimps, who share 99% of their DNA with Homo Saps, to see the very same behavior patterns, with all the drama of human life, sex, blame, scare, overwhelm intimidate, flirt, dance, tell jokes (yes, chimps have as good a sense of humor as humans, maybe a bit less raw and mean) and make love.
Human Girls learn early on that sex sells, and that SEX is the only thing that will attract a young boy of good breeding or at least good petting.
The sex-acts that your attire and demeanor suggest has to be offered up pretty blatantly, and the girl has to be made obviously available to the boy in question. This sex-for-protection concept is the fundamental basis for all relationships in the modern world for the past 40,000 years — according to my calculations, we should be out of the Stone Age very soon now, but it won’t matter. People are the same as they were in ancient times, only a little bit dumber now, less inclined to think for themselves or inquire about oddities.
Somehow, the Powers That Be — mostly Disney and Hallmark Cards — have convinced young girls that if they can get a boy to have sex with her or at least send her a Valentine’s card in response to hers, he’ll learn to love her and respect her and he’ll want to live the rest of his life with her.
That’s wrong. Truck drivers eat wherever they can park.
So is there sex without boyfriend/girlfriend dating/mating? Sure there is, and it’s been around an awfully long time — it’s called “tantra”. It’s typically used by Higher Beings to power up some action needed on the Grid.
There are rumors about this famous tantric sex, and some folks think they’ve found it, and there are tons of books speculating and offering advice on the subject, but they’re all total bullpuckey, and that’s the truth.
You really can’t transmit this stuff through the medium of written text or explanation.
The books are only useful as interesting speculations, but they contain actually nothing real, although they generally tend to feature some pretty raw and exaggerated photos of something that sure looks like sex.
The tantric stuff that you can find out about easily raising the Kundalini, which anyone can easily do with raw sex energy. You don’t need to spend 45 years mastering tantric techniques just to get off on mutual masturbations, as powerful and “high” as they seem to be.
Bottom line, anything you find in the open will be total bullpuckey.
Real tantric secrets? Oh, they’re here, all right; just not anywhere out in the open, that’s all. Real tantric initiation is related to real tantra, not American Tantra, which is raw sex disguised as airy-fairy new age f*cking with over 4,000 positions from which to choose.
For me personally, one position is one position too many.
I laugh every time I pass the Kama Sutra on the book counters at the local bookshops and boutiques, along with the inevitable “How to Cook Weed” and “how to be a solitary witch” books, which evidently are published by the ton, these days.
If you have a taste for hard, driving sex with lots of oral interactions, you’ll be very disappointed with Higher Being Sex, because it’s not about pleasure or pain, not about how far out you can get or how loud you can squeal out the words, “Oh, John, you’re the best!!!”.
I know you’ll hate to hear this, but extreme pleasure, such as sexual excitation, is just another form of pain. Any body part, if rubbed long enough, will eventually have the same meltdown reaction that the clitoris or nipple will have, and rapists take full advantage of the automatic myoneural reactions to set in grief and blame.
The sexual predator makes sure that the victim feels guilty for the violation.
There’s no shortage of seduction out there, so if that’s what you’re looking for, you won’t be disappointed. If you have trouble finding dates, just sign up with an online dating service, and you’ll never be lonely again.
Loneliness is the main hunger. Sex is the bait. Affectionate stroking is the automatic result.
Want more than that?
Sure, no problem. Question is, what do you want to DO with all that sex energy?
If you have no precise answer for that, you need to find out what it’s really good for, and personal pleasure sensations are not the right answer. It’s easy enough to stay out of the bars, singles clubs and online chat rooms, but the office is the first choice for the sexual predator. Don’t be afraid to be rude. Predators count on easy prey, who don’t want to seem rude or offensive.
is Discipline The Answer???
Just try to master tantra without it, and see how far you get.
See You At The Top!!!
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